IF I CAN DO ‘IT’ – YOU CAN DO ‘IT!’
(The ‘it’ for me is ‘being happy and much, much more!)
BRIEF AUTOBIO! SORT OF! 😕 UNCOVERING THE REAL ‘ME!’
(These facts are events that have happened in my life and are being described by me, from a perspective of absolutely no blame or judgment. I am grateful to now see how they all fit into what I had chosen before I decided to be part of this planet’s existence. And for the learning therein).
(N.B. If you are not sure about Reincarnation in Articles/News).
Born 1939. (Yes, I’m 75 and proud of it – plenty of experience. I’ve heard it said that ‘with experience – comes wisdom’.
I was an only child and my parents were in their early/late 40’s when I was born. They waited from 1925 for me to come along.
In 1942 my Dad (an Army General) left for the Middle East.
Dad returned to Australia in 1942.
Dad left again to Milne Bay, New Guinea August 1942, and took a small photo album of the family with him, which I still have in my possession. 🙂
Having been in charge of the Allies in the first defeat of the Japanese on land he returned home, finally in November 1943 with malaria.
I was brought up with the help of mother-craft nurses due to my mother’s ill health, and my father being away so much.
My father was head of Vic. Army till 1949 and when he was 57 he was retired. He was then home most of the time except when he played golf with friends and helped look after the house. And did the shopping.
I was blessed that I went to Loreto Convent in Melbourne.
Loreto gave me an amazing foundation for dealing with what I have experienced during my life – which I now years later, realise – I co-created! 🙂
As a young girl of about thirteen I truly wanted to be a nun. Then later on, I found out there were boys!
Being brought up a Catholic was a great education for me, looking back now. It presented me with a base for feeling guilty early in life – a lot! Which I have learnt to deal with in later life. No blame!
I was also blessed, once I was able to fly on a plane by myself, to be able spend half my holidays with my cousins at the family sheep station at Yass, N.S.W. I was brought up to have no fear of snakes, (we left them alone) to be able to go bare feet over stones, ride horses and have fun. As young children, as long as we were in the dining room in time for meals having heard the warning bell (which we would hear from afar) we got away with – not quite ‘blue murder’.
There was one major event that occurred which in some way has possibly had a major effect on my back and my life. When I was around thirteen, I was riding a 17 ½ hands ex-race horse that was spooked by a car nearby and bolted – then propped – and I kept going! I remember I landed on my coccyx. At the time I was just a bit sore – I guess – bruised and just got on with life. Later ‘medically’ it was said that this may have played a part in the back ‘challenges’ that I developed once I had children. I now see that there are other explanations please refer to http://www.skillsforlivingforlife.com.au/meta-physics-me/
N.B. The picture included here is an enamel painting on china of Jeir Station where I spent half my ‘growing up years.’ i.e. school in Melbourne – holidays at Jeir.
Looking back at school years, I now feel like I was ‘playing a part’ – something I guess I have been doing off and on, right through my life. Because of never feeling really ‘good enough’ I had always been using ‘achievement’ or ‘pleasing’ as ways to feel better and to fit in. Also I’ve felt because of circumstances later on – I have never allowed myself to be ‘truly me’, and step out to be ‘who’ I am – which I’m doing now. 🙂
‘Loreto’ was an avant guarde school allowing us to be social with boys as long as we acted responsibly. Dancing classes at around 15 with St. Kevin’s boys at the local Parish Hall! And this was in the 1950’s!
After leaving school – there was Uni and yes boys! I chose to study Physiotherapy and faced 2nd year Anatomy. And first week cutting up cadavers. 🙁 Due to me preferring a social life and also managing to bring one of my classic ‘coping mechanisms’ into play, I created for myself really bad tonsillitis which gave me an excuse to fail this subject. Which I did! More on this in:
Having decided to opt out of Uni. (now I know I was putting too much pressure on myself to succeed) I learnt short-hand and typing and amazed myself in hindsight by picking up a ‘plum’ job at Georges’ Department Store (this used to be one of the most up-market stores in the world.) I spent 3 years as Secretary to the two Head Buyers and had a ball, buying all the latest clothes from overseas. My mother wasn’t impressed as she covered some of my bills. Thank you Mum!
I had one main relationship from around 18 for about 3 years and this person remained important to me right through my life till he left the planet around 4 years ago.
I married at 23. My parents bought a house for us in Middle Brighton. Yes, I was very blessed! I remember my Dad querying me and asking ‘was I sure of my choice regarding marriage to this person?’
Mum died in Dec., 1963 whilst I was pregnant with my first son and he was born in Feb., 1964 – a leap day baby. A boisterous, ‘slightly’ demanding beautiful blond angel. Probably like I had been deep down though I didn’t show it like he did.
Second son born Nov., 1965. An amazingly ‘well behaved,’ quiet and happy child.
Unfortunately due to challenges with alcohol of which my Dad was obviously well aware and which were not able to be addressed, this marriage ended about two years later.
I sold the house and moved back with the boys to live with him, at the family home where I grew up.
Dad died a couple of years later. I remember how wonderful the Army were, allowing me to have an Army driver and car to take me out to the Repatriation Hospital to see him every day. There was an Army funeral. I went away with the boys to Sydney as I wanted some ‘time out’ to cope with the loss.
After my father died, I had challenges regarding my husband– I guess the term now would be called ‘stalking’. Eventually the Victorian Supreme Court issued an order to keep him away from the house – to allow us to live without him following myself and the boys. Once I even managed to get myself locked out of the house and had to get the solicitor to talk him back out.
During this time I had an operation – a double fusion on my lower back – being told that maybe it was due to my fall off the horse when I was 13. I spent 3 months in hospital – flat on my back (ended up with every infection one could get) and my boys were looked after by a friend’s Mum at home. Rehab took around 18 months for 2 reasons – firstly to learn to walk again properly and also because of the pain medication. It took that long before I could think clearly once more. I was blessed that I had help to care for the boys.
On a trip to Sydney, I met someone through a friend.
Because of the situation in Melbourne and also having a ‘ray of sunshine’ in Sydney, I moved there and bought a house in Mosman, near where he lived.
I got married and the family ended up – eventually, with the addition of a little girl – just like the Brady Bunch! It was a lovely time, though I was still handling every day life with a ‘back challenge’. When Lisa was born I had a caesarean to protect it.
In the end (literally) this marriage went kaput! I take responsibility for the fact that in the ‘end’ I was in pain because of the back scenario and anyone in the same place, knows how debilitating back pain can be. I can now see also how this over the years, tied very much in with my ‘need’ for support that I’ve had all my life. I now teach clients how to fulfil their own emotional needs – the information I have now – if used by myself could have changed my whole life. Interesting to realise that now.
After the marriage break-up, a doctor picked up that Lisa, at that stage 3 yrs., old had a very nasty form of Leukaemia. Within 2 hours she was in Royal North Shore’s Children’s ward and sadly she died 3 weeks later.
So I remained in Sydney, got a job and brought the two boys up myself.
After the two boys left home in the 1980’s, I went back to Melbourne to see if I could re-establish the relationship I had had with my friend from school…….. We were together for some 5 years. I eventually became frustrated because I felt he wasn’t spending the time with me I ‘needed’. There are those ‘needs!’ again. So I ended ‘it!’
In hindsight – we discussed what happened later and he agreed that had I been able to communicate with him in a way that he could have understood, that the relationship would have continued and been happy. At that time, I was naïve regarding relationships and my learning has come from them ‘not working’. Weird isn’t it? The information I learnt is covered in the Relationship article at http://www.skillsforlivingforlife.com.au/article/
The turning point after this relationship break-up was when I bought a book called ‘The Peter Pan Syndrome’. I purchased this (I see now) to find out ‘what the matter was’ with the other person – why he was the way he was? And why I ‘couldn’t cope!’ Having read it, I started realising that it wasn’t about him – but about me. It was up to me to start looking at myself and to take responsibility for my part in why the relationship hadn’t worked.
The break-up and the fact that during that period I was diagnosed with Leukemia, presented me with the awareness (eventually) that what I had experienced was the best thing that could have happened to me. (More info re this at http://www.skillsforlivingforlife.com.au/editorials/) Now I see this clearly – back then I was distraught! With both occurring.
During the latter l980’s whilst I was still in Melbourne and as a way of dealing with this illness, I attended pretty much every seminar that was available back in those days – including 6 months of re-birthing and worked with some amazing teachers. I had ‘found’ Louise Hays and worked with Dr. John Harrison in Sydney and actually brought him to Melbourne for talks at Melbourne University.
Eventually in early 1990’s, I decided to move to Noosa having been there in the 1960’s and knew deep down that I would end up living there.
I did a number of Counselling Courses with Lou Hogg (the most amazing person and ex-Lifeline teacher).
Around 1992 I set up my own business – ‘Skills For Living For Life’ and one of my first clients suggested I call myself a ‘Facilitator of Change’ which I have done ever since.
I have worked in the transformational field for over 30 years in Melbourne, Sydney and here in Noosa giving people the tools to help them to change their own lives – themselves.
The title of this article is ‘If I Can Do “It” – You Can Do “It!”’ and the wording was suggested years ago by a daughter-in-law as the title of a Autobiographical story about my life. She felt it has been eventful! It was at a time when ‘I was turning around much that was ‘unbeneficial’ to being the opposite.
Turning situations around in 2002 involved getting through an endoscopy at a local hospital ‘that didn’t work out’. My oesophagus was perforated! After 3 days lying in hospital and being told I had 6 hours to live, I was finally ambulanced from Noosa to Brisbane Hospital and remained there for nearly 3 weeks, after an operation to clear an infection. I was unable to drink or eat (or sleep due to a collapsed lung on top of everything else) and was being fed through a bag in my stomach area. I realised once I was recovering, that I had to go through this (challenging as it was) for me to write the last part of the ‘Know the “Who” in You!’ programme i.e. the ‘Letting Go’ plus the ‘Forgiveness’ exercises in ‘the Process’. I had already thought I had finished writing ‘the Programme’ some 5 years previous to this occurring. There’s a saying in Self Transformational work – ‘you are unable to take someone where you haven’t been yourself’.
Some 18 months later I went through surgery for colon cancer and I ‘bounced’ out of this relatively easily due to the fact I was aware of the cause on a Metaphysical base. I was back playing tennis in 5 weeks! 🙂 More on this at http://www.skillsforlivingforlife.com.au/meta-physics-me/
In the years following this I was able to turn the Leukemia around with no medical help after some 20 years of focusing on ‘doing’ this!
Since then, I sold my home and am renting and focusing on supporting people who are going through Spiritual Awakening Symptoms in Articles/News and giving them skills to make this journey as easy as it possibly can be.
As a further test – in the middle of 2014 something pretty massive came out of the blue. A tendon in my ankle ‘went’ for no apparent reason and after a couple of weeks in a moon-boot after a diagnosis, my right knee decided to ‘play up’. The end result was that for 3 months I was unable to drive and for many more months was only able to get around the house in order to take care of every day issues like food! My friends did my shopping for me and my son drove me to the Physio. sometimes twice a week. During this period – which I would actually call a ‘black night of the soul’ experience, I went through everything from feeling like a victim – due to blaming, to feeling totally frustrated, depressed and it was a lesson for me I now realise in being forced to ‘do nothing’ and simply ‘be’. Sometimes when we’re not ‘getting it’ – the next step is that the Universe etc., will help us create something so that the space is created in which we are able to stop and learn that which is meant to be taught! I wrote an article called ‘The Journey Out of Victim Consciousness … to Simply Be-ing!’
Right ‘now’ my transformation is occurring on many levels as is happening with many, many of those here on Earth. This also includes the birth of this web-site and also eventually – the culmination of the addition of 30 years of my work exercises with clients being transferred into e-Books to make the information more available to those involved in self transformation. This keystoselfmastery.com site will carry further up-to-date information towards being able to ‘create easily’ from ♥ ! ‘Easily’ being the main goal!
Over some 15 years, the information in ‘Know the “Who” in You!’ was passed on to me by two extremely high sources and I am truly grateful for the nudges they are giving me right now, to get what they gave me – out there!
‘what has happened in the past may have influenced my life,
but I am responsible for who I am NOW! Blaming won’t help me ‘be happy!’
Only I can make me happy!
‘© 2015 Lis Blake
Keys to Self Mastery!